如果问一个不善交际的人,“为什么不会交际呢”?多半会回答“没有口才”。他们以为只要有了流利、幽默的言辞就可以有效地与人交往了,因而不断在言语上下功夫。其实,这种看法是片面的。在日常生活中,我们常常可以见到这样的情形:一位学识渊博、口才极佳的教授,尽管他可以滔滔不绝地讲一大通如何做人的道理,可总是打动不了他那桀骜不驯的儿子,为什么呢?因为这位身为教授的父亲没有注意到,在他讲话时,儿子嘴巴翘起,脸转向一 If you ask someone who is not sociable, “why do not you communicate?” Most likely answer “no eloquence.” They think that as long as there is fluent, humorous words can effectively deal with people, so keep making utterances. In fact, this view is one-sided. In our daily life, we often see such a situation: a knowledgeable, eloquent professor, although he can talk endlessly about how Chase makes people’s truth, can not always move his rebellious Son, why? Because the father did not notice as a professor, as he spoke, his son cocked his face turned to a